Dismissing a woman in your life...may be dismissing Gods voice
I was in the hospital yet again with another infection that stubbornly wouldn't go away. As I laid there alone, at times I wondered what is there to learn from this season that I haven't already learned? What insight can I gain to pass onto the people in my world that this is not for nothing? I thought about the selfless woman in my life and how they are so far and few between. I thought about how God uses the simple things in life to align us with people, with women who will change our destiny if we only say yes, yet too many times, say no. Friendship, fellowship should be a part of our every day life, that is how we give and receive love. Fellowship is not just something that we try to fit into our Christian life after we get everything else together, it should be a part of our every day life.
As women we are made to be friends with others to surround ourselves with women with a purpose, with women who can hold our hands in the ups and downs in life. What has happened to our generation? Our generation is full of women who only become friends with people they think they can gain something from. I am a person who looks around and in a room full of women I read those around me, I can tell the hurting, the mad, the ones throwing a smile on when they want to cry, those that are full of themselves and think the world revolves around their every move because they got 1000 likes on Instagram. Don't get me wrong confidence can be a Godly quality in us if its used to build up others. I see, hear, and watch women around me and every single one has the same needs, to be SEEN, loved, and wanted. As women we want to be wanted, but a lot of times find ourselves rejected.
What do we do as women when our invitations sit impatiently passing by the time? Our texts aren't returned, voicemail deleted, and we want to be a part of a group, or a friend to someone who we used to be close to but next thing we know they don't answer our call? What do you do when in the middle of your drought, the friends that are there when you want to go to dinner aren't there in the darkest hour? When the person you thought was your bff lies to you to hang out with someone else, or they call to only complain about their life, or a friend's life and you listen intently only to be told they have to go after they vent on you? You are left with overflowing luggage and wonder how did I get here? Life happens. I've found that too many women don't stop for a moment and take even a second to see how detrimental their words, or silence can be in someone's life. We have such power in our words!! God made women so powerful, and when a friends calls to tell you all about a friends drama, don't you wonder what they say about you? Build up each other, speak into your friends life, with passion for their dreams, for their new seasons, their breakthroughs. Cry with those who cry and laugh with those who laugh, and if they are in a funk do what God has given you to be there in that moment and ask him for the words they need to hear to transform the funk.
Women tend to look to be friends with the next best thing, the most popular, most liked, most social media liked. Do you ever think about how shallow this is? I pick the women in my life by their character and virtues, I always keep an open heart towards others you never know what God may be doing a work in you, or through you. We do not need to be just like our friends, because we are all made with different qualities, different likes, and wants, different strengths and weaknesses. The best friendships are there to bring each other up when they are in a dry season, to remind them God loves them even when they don't feel it, to tell them how beautiful they are, and how thankful you are for them.
Pick your friends by the way in which they love, think on their strengths. Do you want someone to only look at your life and think of all your weaknesses? Don't listen to the negative people spread around about other women. Get to know someone for yourself. Are they perfect..no but neither are you deary. Do they have something special inside yes!! I believe God instilled each of us with gifts that sometimes takes someone else to open the box and show us. You may be missing out on an awesome opportunity to be a part of opening someone's special box of gifts. God puts people in our path for a reason and if we aren't open minded and open hearted we can miss the next level of intimacy that only a God appointed friendship can bring. Have you dismissed being friends with someone because of something someone said? Do you dismiss coffee dates, play dates, etc because you are too busy and think I have enough friends? Have you told yourself you don't want to be friends because "I can't gain anything from being a friend with her"? If you were honest with yourself how would you rate yourself? How do you know? What if we have something to offer someone that God appointed us to give? What if you block not only your blessing but theirs because you think there's nothing fun, or don't have time? What if you are dismissing a blessing God is giving you? What if God is speaking through someone's situation to touch a part of your heart to grow in a way you didn't know possible?
1 John 3:16 By this we know love, that he laid down his life for us, and we ought to lay down our lives for the brothers.
Galatians 6:2(NLT) Share each other’s burdens, and in this way obey the law of Christ.
As women we are made to be friends with others to surround ourselves with women with a purpose, with women who can hold our hands in the ups and downs in life. What has happened to our generation? Our generation is full of women who only become friends with people they think they can gain something from. I am a person who looks around and in a room full of women I read those around me, I can tell the hurting, the mad, the ones throwing a smile on when they want to cry, those that are full of themselves and think the world revolves around their every move because they got 1000 likes on Instagram. Don't get me wrong confidence can be a Godly quality in us if its used to build up others. I see, hear, and watch women around me and every single one has the same needs, to be SEEN, loved, and wanted. As women we want to be wanted, but a lot of times find ourselves rejected.
Colossians 2:2 that their hearts may be encouraged, being knit together in love, to reach all the riches of full assurance of understanding and the knowledge of God’s mystery, which is Christ
1 Peter 4:9 Show hospitality to one another without grumbling.
Philippians 2:1-2 So if there is any encouragement in Christ, any comfort from love, any participation in the Spirit, any affection and sympathy, complete my joy by being of the same mind, having the same love, being in full accord and of one mind.
Women tend to look to be friends with the next best thing, the most popular, most liked, most social media liked. Do you ever think about how shallow this is? I pick the women in my life by their character and virtues, I always keep an open heart towards others you never know what God may be doing a work in you, or through you. We do not need to be just like our friends, because we are all made with different qualities, different likes, and wants, different strengths and weaknesses. The best friendships are there to bring each other up when they are in a dry season, to remind them God loves them even when they don't feel it, to tell them how beautiful they are, and how thankful you are for them.
Psalms 55:14 What good fellowship we once enjoyed as we walked together to the house of God .
Galatians 6:10(NLT)Therefore, whenever we have the opportunity, we should do good to everyone—especially to those in the family of faith.
If you are a woman being dismissed by those around you find solace in God, and know you aren't the only one that has been rejected in life. That doesn't make you less of a woman. The people that truly see that will be blessed by you in their life as each of us has unique qualities to bring to the table. Thank goodness we are all made different! Thank goodness that our best friend can always be found in spirit around us. Hugs to those reading this that need a friend...if you read this and think of someone, send them a text, an email, card, or set up a date you never know how your world may be changed and in turn change those around you! Happy Monday!
John 13:34-35 A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another: just as I have loved you, you also are to love one another. By this all people will know that you are my disciples, if you have love for one another.”
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